The official chord of the asexual community
Being aromantic or asexual and trying to explain romantic attraction and sexual attraction respectively is a bit like having black-and-white vision and trying to explain the concept of colour. You can learn the definition and use knowledge of technical stuff like light wave frequencies, but you’ll never properly know what you’re talking about because you’ve never experienced it.
Aesthetic attraction is when you look at another person the way you’d look at this dress
Or this sunset
It’s simply an appreciation of beauty and there’s nothing sexual or romantic about it (though you can feel aesthetic attraction and sexual and/or romantic attraction simultaneously)
This is what asexual people usually mean when they talk about someone else being beautiful/pretty/good-looking/attractive.
(Links to original post for dress and necklaces)
“That’s not what asexual means; it means you reproduce by yourself.”
Do you put your money in a river bank?
Do you have to lie on the floor to say something untrue?
If someone has a mole on their face does it mean they have a furry creature attached to them?
Words that are spelt and pronounced the same can have different meanings.